by Dreams End » Sun Jan 01, 2006 5:37 pm
I hope some of those experienced with DID are still following this thread. Another quick question.<br><br>Oh, first I should say that I've met another alter, named (she got to pick a name...she didn't realize she could have one and was excited) Arya (after a character in a book and also because she has a beautiful voice but her Dad would never let her sing.) She's around 14 and she's the one that holds much of the bad memories and emotions involving her Dad when she first moved in with him (too much violence between her and her mom). She sounds actually a bit younger when she talks and she also sounds kinda "drugged" when she talks. Overall, we had a great talk about some of the things her dad did (nothing too heavy...she got very agitated when I pushed just a bit) and how these show that her DAD was ill and that these actions were not her fault. She's the one who was basically having the breakdown that led her to the hospital. And Debbie, at that age, was cutting on herself (she's pretty sure, but not real clear memories), so she is one of the alters who cuts. She, or a combination of her and Debbie's primary self, actually telephoned her Dad yesterday. I wasn't sure this was wise, but she wanted to...She actually asked her Dad point blank about abuse (only about physical) and how he would lose his temper. To her Dad's credit, though he claims not to remember this physical abuse, he confessed that her other siblings had also said this and he did not get angry or defensive. I'm not sure what would explain an abuser losing memory, as that seems to be a function of trauma (or alcoholism...not an issue), but maybe deep depression (assuming he's not just lying.) I don't think he's DID. So, he didn't deny any of it...but did't confess, either.<br><br><br>Anyway, I had a quick question. Debbie says there's an alter inside (I think we are changing our terminology to "aspect"...she doesn't like "alter".) who speaks another language. One she doesn't recognize. She would recognize Italian, as she lived there for four years as a child. She doesn't know what language it is and I've yet to meet this "aspect". Ever heard of anything like this? She's not completely sure its even a real language, though I get the sense that it's an adult, not a babbling child.<br><br>One other question. Debbie isn't sure she wants to integrate her major alters...but definitely wants to deal with their issues. I really don't have a problem if that's the choice she wants to make. There may be many other alters underneath she's not aware of yet, but for now, it's not an unreasonable number if communication can be improved and the negative behaviors controlled. However, she has lots of "fragments" that just seem to have "jobs", like one we call "competent lady" who takes over at work but doesn't really seem to have a fully formed personality. I think this is common. It seems to me that integrating those fragments would be an excellent idea, especially as a first step, as I'd not expect this to be traumatic. Anyone have experiences like this? Does one even "integrate" these "job specific" fragments? Just curious.<br><br>anyway, she's back and feeling pretty good. I've had talks with two or three parts and, through Debbie, some of the others, and they seem to be doing okay. I think meeting Arya is a nice breakthrough for the new year. <p></p><i></i>