by nashvillebrook » Fri Apr 14, 2006 11:39 am
i'm really glad this thread has been started. i'm very much on this wavelength; wondering about 'love.'<br><br>what ARE we talkking about when we speak of love?<br><br> in tarot, Cups are the suit of 'hearts.' the archetype is about 'emotionality,' and 'intuition.' when we say someone 'has a big heart' we are generally talking about empathy, not romantic potential (or are we?).<br><br>willhelm reich identified 'love' with 'lifeforce' and was crucified for his research into sexuality and health. his idea was that 'love' in the largest sense, is what makes the world literally come alive. his orgone defied rational/linear measurement -- almost taunted it. <br><br>love in marriage is often identified as 'intimacy.' what do we mean by this? do the powers that be ever reference 'love as intimacy,' or does this somehow short-circuit the programme? i've been in relationships where there was very little 'intimacy,' or 'emotional support,' and yet if asked, both of us would swear on our grandmothers' graves that we loved each other. did we?<br><br>when is 'love' equated with 'romance' as opposed to 'intimacy'? is it when someone wants something from you? <!--EZCODE EMOTICON START :) --><img src=http://www.ezboard.com/images/emoticons/smile.gif ALT=":)"><!--EZCODE EMOTICON END--> or wants to sell you something? <br><br>here's where i've been digging lately -- when you start looking at 'love' as an archtype, you find that all roads lead back to 'the self.' this blows my mind. i can't make sense of it. 'love' as we know it as americans is all about partnership. but the symbolic meaning of love thru history points to issues of 'self realization" 'knowing thyself' and 'the gift of self.' this is kinda zen-like. love is something solitary and private, instead of something bestowed upon you for being "attractive."<br><br>is love affection? is it attention? appreciation? or is it the allowing the other to be free? is it all of these? can you love someone and not want to live with them?<br><br>and why does love MATTER so damn much? or, DOES love really matter all that much? do all people need love in the same way? is the yearning and desire just a genetically hard-wired program to get us to breed?<br><br>does it make sense to speak of different KINDS of love? agape... eros... schoolgirl crushes. are these more similar or different?<br><br>what's the relation of love and death? eros and thanatos?<br><br>okay -- back to your point -- love as a PRODUCT. is it that LOVE is being commodified? or is it that *your identity* is being commodified? YOU ARE THE TARGET. when advertising uses 'love' imagery to sell product, they aren't so much selling "love" as exploiting our relationship to ourselves. they know LOVE is what we want and they are here to help us with deodorants, hair gel and sexy cars. they know we'll do almost anything to get more love. they know that *love* is so ill-defined and unreflected upon that most people will settle for all sorts crap that isn't LOVE. they kow that 'love' creates a crisis of self. and when people have no sense of self, they'll cast about like screech weasels trying to get it back. keep us off-kilter -- keep us questioning our lovability -- and we're putty in your hands.<br><br>the powers that 'be' -- how do *they* exploit love? think about 9-11. 'love' and family was exploited as a means to send us to war. if you LOVED YOUR family... you would go over there and kill THAT FAMILY. it's the only way to PROTECT your "loved ones." in a country of people too neurotic to enjoy REAL LOVE we'll readily settle for this weird BLOOD LOVE. <br><br>on another 'powers that be' tack -- how is sexuality controlled and how does that benefit the powers that be? you may have sex, but only in a commited marriage. you may have all the sex you want, as long as it's with someone of the opposite sex, same race, height/weight appropriate, and mostly within your same age group.<br><br>here's a whole other direction to take this -- think about suburbs and how they are "designed for families." here, i'm identifying 'family' as the only 'sanctioned' form of love in a fascist culture. once you express 'love' in form of a family, you are expected to ratchet up your inSECURITY -- which is the ultimate love-killer. we codify this insecurity in GATED communities. if you LOVE your family you will lock them up and turn on the sprinklers. you'll drive an hour to work. your spouse will do the same. the kids are doing god-knows-what... but damn, it's good to be "loved." <br> <p></p><i></i>