by Dreams End » Fri Oct 14, 2005 9:36 pm
Might as well take advantage of the minds of some posters here.<br><br>My wife is DID with limited recall of what created the condition. It seems clear there is abuse by a family member, but she "doesn't want to know." Who could blame her.<br><br>however, someone in her does know. And she emerged for the first time a few nights ago. She went to sleep as 'wisper', a child alter, and awoke with a start but not one word. It turned out to be an alter who has no name, and, indeed, does not even have a mouth with which to speak. <br><br>until that night, this alter lived in a cell which was locked. Debbie (not my wife's real name but someone suggested I give her a name in these accounts) had promised to find the key. <br><br>I tried something that night and had an intuition it might bring forward previously unemerged alters. Wisper was going on and on about chocolate and I told her I loved her and to make sure and pass that love on to everyone inside. She chose to do it by offering chocolate kisses. Evidently she pushed the kiss through the bars of Silence's (my name for her) cell. <br><br>Then later she emerged, stood up and looked out the window for a few minutes and then Debbies physical body just collapsed onto the floor...her adult self came back and cried heavily but know visual memories surfaced (she'd had some pain earlier that matched pain that rape might cause....it's common I think to "remember" in this way.)<br><br>So Silence is now out. she stays in her cell but the cell is no longer locked. Soon, I imagine, she will somehow begin to tell her story.<br><br>Soliciting free advice:<br><br>1. The freaking headaches. The more Debbie must fight to maintain control the worse they are. She lets some alters out at appropriate times, but getting through work or interacting with her daughter is tough. She has pretty strong medication for these, but any other advice would be welcome.<br><br>2. Fever. She had a constant fever for a month...low grade but she works for a doc who ran every blood test he could think of. We and her therapist began to speculate it was somehow excess energy from someone inside trying to get out or to get attention. Sure enough, after Silence emerged, she didn't have fever anymore. has anyone heard of this? <br><br>3. Any advice for how to be support person if Silence should put too much info out there at one time? It really seems like bits are emerging as Debbie's ready to handle them but if she gets real specific memories she's gonna have a serious freak-out and the hospitalizations really don't help at all. She's been in twice due to fears of suicide, but that's all they are good for these days is stabilizing suicidal patients. Even the hospital that is listed as "addressing alters" in some guide I found had a nurse who basically mocked her DID. So, really don't want hospitals.<br><br>4. If we get ANY indication that what's going on here stems from more than just abuse by family members, I will post that and look for advice on that topic. I don't discuss it with her now not only because there are simply no memories or even triggers that can't be explained by familial abuse but also not to make her situation feel more hopeless than she sometimes already feels it is. We've had a few short, very general conversations about how this may have happened to others but that's as far as it goes. <br><br>Okay, it helps to get this out. She's doing pretty well so I'm not sitting around in crisis mode, but just trying to think ahead. <p></p><i></i>
