by Project Willow » Thu Nov 03, 2005 5:59 pm
<!--EZCODE QUOTE START--><blockquote><strong><em>Quote:</em></strong><hr>I never thought it would happen but now at 42, I just experienced the arrousal feeling from a "normal" trigger or thought. I can talk to my daughter about most anything so I asked her that night if this happend to her or other people all the time. She said, yeah. I said, every day? She said, sometimes. I asked how do people focus on their day when this happens. She just laughed and went back to homework.<hr></blockquote><!--EZCODE QUOTE END--><br><br>I want to reply to so many of these threads, but just cringe at how revealing they are. I admire that you can be so frank about these issues, it's much more difficult for me. That must sound a little odd I suppose, given what I reveal elsewhere online.<br><br>Anyway, I wanted to say sw, I am the very same age as you and have been going through the same thing. I can't believe what my body is doing. Now that I've worked on so many issues, I often have the same thought, how does one live with the constant intrusion of sexual urges? Is this how it always is for most people? I laugh about it though and am very glad to be feeling somewhat "normal" in that area. I imprinted on the victim role, and I am so highly disturbed as to what triggers a kind of hyper-arousal, I just can't face it completely yet. I am still trying to sort out so many issues, as some very bizarre things happened in the labs that had to do with manipulating sexual responses. I am determined however to reclaim as much of my sexual being as is possible after all of this terrible crap. Doing the memory work over the years apparently has freed up enough of me so that I can actually experience arousal (without being ordered to or being in an abusive situation) and most of my responses are to "normal" triggers.<br><br>Perhaps it is also related to being this age, the body just seems absolutely intent on procreating. Well, it makes for an interesting social life. Everytime I own my body and freely chose to be with someone, I WIN over those assh*le perps!<br><br>Most of the time I focus on the victory, but there is deep grief, and I can only deal with it in pieces. The grief dovetails with midlife passage issues, and lots of times I just cry in frustration: It's not fair! I want to be 20! <p></p><i></i>