by havanagilla » Tue Mar 21, 2006 5:09 pm
I am slowly trying to get a grip over my situation here in Israel (between the devil and the deep blue sea)...it appears that Israel is embarking on a new attempt to deal with MC victims, i would like to toss the facts as I see them, for "reality check" and responses if possible.<br>through my own "trial and error" (mostly error, regretfully) attempts to establish some sort of boundaries against perps and their friends in the establishment, i am tracing a constant "dialogue" which runs parallel to the abuse, by people who I would lable as those who see themselves as "good and enlightened" within the dark allignments. Namely, in all those dark orgs and gov agencies one would find the token "liberal", it might be a psychologist or social worker who tries to be "reasonable" and take the edge out of some of the more brutal ideas. example (hypothetical) suppose an intel unit decided to get rid of someone to control damage, the "liberal reasonable" man in the org.unit would try to come up with a solution which is less than murder/execution, such as confinement, hospitalization etc. Or he would try to milk some budget to rehab the dependents of the deceased etc. etc. You can also identify those people politically, they would probably be more affiliated with labor/democrats as opposed to outright fascists who usually manage those orgs and call the shots. These people have a double role, one is to lend some decency of facade of normalcy to otherwise crazy orgs, AND to perhaps indeed spare some unnecessary pain. <br>I am getting a feel (its just like sixth sense, no proof) that there is a kind of decision making process taking place right now in ISrael, on the issue of "how to deal with MC victims", where the hardliners are pushing for clean up (shredding) and the so called "englighened killers" are trying to prove it is possible to rehab victims AND keep confidentiality in tact. the 'green path" is basically "forget the past and win the future", the red path...is...annihilation one way or the other.<br>--<br>I am trying to second guess the motivations of those who deal with this situation, and I think most of it financial, namely, there is a LOT of unaccounted for money in this unofficial rehab/silencing business. I find those mediators pretty disgusting, in the sense that they are the ones, in fact, who prevent these matters from going to trial/criminal investigations/press etc. But their justification is that "this would happen anyway, and I am helping at least one person/family regain their lives blah blah". I am constantly digging and finding the same rationalization - "it happens in all the other countries in the world", as the main source of collaboration here. <br>The framework of "rehab" in this context is -<br>1. keep the victim busy (working).<br>2. keep the victim in touch with a trusted mental health professional who will report back (mainly on how safe are the "secrets").<br>3. keep the person forever on the verge of poverty so that they are under tight control.<br>4. keep the person socially isolated, so that he or she is all too happy to confide with the mental health prof who appears on the board as a "friend".<br>5. keep the person sexually celibate.<br>6. keep the person on a survival level in terms of goals.<br>7. keep the person without mobility. (no car)<br>8. keep the children of the person under some form of vulnerability (through the education system etc.) as a threat.<br>9. give very small gradual incentives (carrots) for "good behavior" and just enough contentment to have something to lose from "bad behavior".<br>10. send many validations to how the person is well integrated and loves his life. In my case, I get comments such as "you are soo typically Israeli and so rooted in the culture" Or the most cynical one I find recently - "you should be working in the ministry of absorption because your hebrew awakens language and culture sensibilities in people who have lost touch with their jewish or israeli identity"...etc. Namely, compliment the person on how much they are in fact, patriots.<br>it goes on and on.<br>11. Finally, I think they are aspiring to get the MC victim to be PROUD of her contribution to the state, via her sacrifice, which - in due time - will be recognized and acknowledged properly. And to come to terms and actually condone the inevitability of the suffering that was cast on her, by force of circumstances, of by human mistakes of judgement, which should also be overlooked. <br><br>While this is the best route for survival, it feels like a final execution, namely, a spriitual rape/death. however, if one does indeed realize how slim are the chances of staying alive under these circumstances, perhaps there is a way to come to terms with this folly as well, without letting it "get into" me.<br><br>Thoughts. and it brings me to think about holocaust survivors, such as Primo Levy and their search for "reason to live" after the insult of the soul, at the hands of brutes. <br><br>this makes one wonder, deeply, whether this kind of life is worth living ? a mockery ...of some sorts. <br><br>on edit- i think another part of the program/plan is to construc and provide an alternative narative to explain the past, this is something I need to think about more. I think one tactic is to depict the saga as "family issue", pitting one against the other, thus reducing the accountability of the PTB's to the messed up familiar situation to start with. Wlel, this is just an initial thought/ <p></p><i>Edited by: <A HREF=http://p216.ezboard.com/brigorousintuition.showUserPublicProfile?gid=havanagilla>havanagilla</A> at: 3/21/06 2:17 pm<br></i>