C2W wrote:I like you and do not fear you, as I think you know.
Yes, I do.
What's more pertinent to me in this context is that I admire and enjoy your reasoning and writing.
There is no higher form of flattery for me.
Personally I don't want to believe I am disliked any more passionately than I don't want to disbelieve that I am disliked. And I am now going to wait here quietly for a few moments while you wrestle that triple-negative into comprehensibility.
Ready? Then let's continue!
If I did not know you better I’d take this as condescension. But since I do know you better I won’t. Inserting a dis in front of believe was not so hard to comprehend.
I'd far prefer not to be disliked whenever possible, naturally.
Naturally and I don’t think there is a whole lot of difference between the terms prefer and want.
But if it's a question of what I want to believe, I'm much more alarmed by the prospect of being liked than I am of being disliked. And therefore much more reluctant to believe it.
Rearranging this and assuming you do not prefer or want to be alarmed, I arrive at: I want to believe I am disliked if my other option is being liked, which to my mind does not make sense if you “prefer not to be disliked whenever possible”.
So I say: speak for yourself, honey. I'll still like you, I promise.
And that is reassuring as you seemingly meant it to be and not alarming in the least.
Perhaps it’s best to say that you prefer to be neither liked nor disliked? And yet, you spend an inordinate, to my mind, amount of verbiage on this board carefully equivocating so as not to tick anyone off and mending fences at the slightest sign that someone has taken offense. (Though I will note you have taken on a more combative stance lately). The discrepancy between that observation (which it should go without saying is my own) and what you are saying here is hard for me to reconcile, none of which is very important at all in the grand scheme of things.
So I say, I’ll still like you with no intent of alarming you no matter how many rhetorical pretzels you twist yourself into.
"Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity." - Martin Luther King Jr.