heh, what a cool 'get to know ya' thread. Some of you folks got me a little misty-eyed. Here goes:
1 – I used to be a very conservative Christian girl, believed sex before marriage was a sin & got married at 22. I couldn't figure out what all the fuss was all about when it came to the whole issue around sex. I later discovered how incompatible my ex husband & I were sexually, as we rarely had sex & it wasn't enjoyable. At least not on my part. Ended up having an affair 5 years later & thought, “so this is how it's supposed to be!”
2 – I've had 2 serious relationships in my life, one with my ex husband mentioned above & the other with my daughter's pop. Both were polar opposites. My ex husband, although easy to get along with & had no bad temper whatsoever, was incredibly neglectful & treated me like a casual roommate. My daughter's pop, although wonderful in bed (he was not the one I had an affair with), was incredibly possessive, volatile & short fused. I ended up leaving him when I was 6 months preggers when he smashed in the windshield of my car & ripped off the windshield wipers, all while I was sitting in the car. I have, however, stayed on friendly terms with both, as I prefer an amicable parting, or at least settling our differences at a later time.
3 – I was certain I would never have children, I had no maternal instinct. When I was about 27, the instinct started to germinate. When I found out I was preggers at 29, I was absolutely thrilled. Having a little human growing inside is one of the most amazing feelings. I was determined to bond with her right from the beginning. All while in my belly, I spoke to her, played music & had a nightly routine of massaging my belly with almond oil, partly because I didn't want stretch marks & partly for the bonding aspect. It seemed to soothe her. When she finally was born, I felt like having her was the best decision I ever made. Even though challenging, parenthood for me is one of the most rewarding roles.
4 – I've been lurking on this forum since at least early 2006, got brave enough to sign up a year later, posted every so often & finally got brave enough to start posting regularly. I really like this forum, it's really like no other I've been on. I like the eclectic mix of people & how they all interact with each other. I've changed quite dramatically from the period of time from when I first started posting on here until recently, but all in a good way. My line of work now allows me to poke around on here more often. Don't know if that's a good thing or not.
5 – I've never really had an interest in exploring a bunch of drugs. The first narcotic I ever tried was, of course, pot & it was when I was 26. I tried MDMA when I turned 30 & discovered I quite liked that as well, but only very occasionally. I've been curious about such things as mescaline, peyote & ayahuasca, the latter one more so.
6 – I used to work in construction full time & could put many of the guys to shame when it came to how hard I worked. I loved it, kept me in shape & I was unusually strong for a gal. I had entered into this field of work around the time I'd left my ex husband. Needless to say, I felt like a kid in a candy store, being surrounded by sweaty, dirty construction workers. I was no longer a 'good conservative Christian girl'. I now dabble part time as an independent Pro Dom & Courtesan. I must say, it is by far one of my most favorite jobs. The hours are great & the pay is excellent.
7 - I was a chubby, nerdy kid in elementary school & got picked on regularly. Going into high school, I blossomed, but I still carried my social awkwardness into high school & it was still hard making friends. Sort of the 'ugly duckling' syndrome, I guess you could say. I dropped out when I was 15 & later completed my education at a local community college. I never did fit in with my peers at school.
8 - I used to have long thick hair down to my waist. When I was young, I used to “hide” behind it, it was sort of a security blanket, the idea of not having it terrified me. I ended up cutting it all off when I was 19, in favor of a 'Trinity from The Matrix' look. I really came out of my shell then.
9 - I think a lot of my social awkwardness stemmed from abuse issues, both sexual & emotional. I lived in an abusive home until I was 15. After I left, I think I suffered PTSD, as I was horrendously depressed for a long while, & at one point I wouldn't come out of my room for almost 3 weeks except to use the washroom. I also found I was so exhausted, I would sleep for up to 18 hours a day.
10 – I've discovered the last couple of years, that what they say about entering into your thirties (as a woman) is true; I'm a lot more confident sexually, I've explored quite a bit (& I still am) & overall, it's been a very positive & grounding experience. I'm a lot more comfortable with my body now, even though I've had a child & I have a little more belly & cellulite, than I was in my early 20's. I've always known that I was just as taken with the feminine form as I am with the masculine, so I've explored my bi tendencies as of late. Some of my most memorable intimate moments have been with some lovely women.
... hmmm, thought I'd have trouble coming up with 10 interesting tid bits about me, now I'm on a roll...