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To lay the foundation for a future offense.
TKL wrote:Why does apologizing make a person a target?
Have you ever noticed this? People will say "I'm sorry because, and so on and so on," and it becomes a point of attack...
I hate that.
Barracuda wrote:I know I'm a dick sometimes, and I really don't usually mean to be,...
brainpanhandler wrote:EIAE, You don't apologize often enough if you never apologize for anything. Truth be told though (to use a phrase that belongs on the Into the Dustbin thread) I suspect you are softer than you sound.
William S Burroughs wrote:I can claim some skill in the scrivener's trade, but I cannot guarantee to write a passage that will make someone physically ill.
brainpanhandler, fwiw I don't fear or dislike you. What makes you feel others do?
In my personal life, I do wrong things, thoughtless things, get bitchy at times. I apologize because I want to be forgiven, and how can I deserve forgiveness if I'm not contrite?
Brainpanhandler wrote:No one wants to believe they are disliked and yet I am convinced that a number of members dislike and/or fear me for no reason I can discern. Prudence in this context is a good idea; paranoia not necessarily a bad one. On the other hand cultivating some measure of trust based on one's own instincts seems to me not terribly risky when accompanied by the previously mentioned qualities.
brainpanhandler wrote: On the other hand, there is no "I really don't usually mean to be" defense that holds any water at all. I don't post anything unless I have time to review it and make sure it really is what I want to say.
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