There were months and months before she started insulting and attacking me one day, out of the blue, for no reason I've ever known, during which we got along fine.
So presumably if she stopped doing that, we would again.
I say it's better for the board if you ignore her if you can't take her catty rudeness. You say it's better that she be banned so you never have to look upon her blighted name again (which would be the same as you ignoring her, as far as your experience of the board was concerned).
Like hell I do.
First of all, the choice is not between me putting her on "Ignore" and her returning.
Second of all, I didn't say I wouldn't.
Third, I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE OUT OF THE TWO OF US WHO'S CAPABLE OF DOING SOMETHING CONSTRUCTIVE.
Fourth, her name is not blighted, afaic, and neither is she. I think she's great. I just think that I -- and you, and everybody on the board -- should have the right to express an opinion without being insulted or scorned for it.
I say it's worse to make OBVIOUSLY SINCERE insults and accusations using sarcasm and snark (Cuda saying RollingStone is a sock) than it is to make OBVIOUSLY INSINCERE (JOKING) "threats" and accusations (me with the masturbation thing, C_W with the T-word thing).
Then let me know how many OBVIOUSLY SINCERE insults and accusations using sarcasm and snark from C_w you want to see. Because if you're under the impression that never happens, you're wrong.***
Also, is it somehow not getting through to you that my whole point is that ignoring and/or dismissing everything anybody says about feeling hurt, intimidated or bullied -- as well as everything they show you by way of indicating the situation doesn't arise from "goading" -- in preference of singling out two examples for narrow comparison on terms that you've selected because they favor your favorite IS FAVORITISM?
Or do you sincerely think it isn't?
Because if it's the latter, I need an explanation.
Apparently, the mods and some of the favorite sons and daughters of this board think the opposite is true. That's their problem.
If you mean me, it's not. I like candor, sincerity, and jokes. All three. And I don't think there's anything wrong with ANY PEOPLE using a little sarcasm or snark to make a point, if that's how they feel like making it. I mean, freedom-of-style is a part of freedom-of-expression. Obviously.
It's the targeting people for abuse because you disagree with them and then opting to scapegoat them rather than take responsibility for what you did that I'm objecting to.
You're ignoring that objection as if it wasn't there, btw.
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*** ON EDIT: That's a real offer, if you care. So let me know. It's just that since the terms are not only narrow but also subjective, I'd rather not do the work of compiling a bunch of examples that you'd be perfectly free to put in the "OBVIOUSLY INSINCERE (JOKING)" category anyway no matter what, if you don't request it.