wintler2 wrote:justdrew wrote:.. setting up a counter current, rather than head on confrontation with something that may or may not even be, is probably, in my estimation, a better course of action.
Are you sure you're not letting yourself be intimidated by tantrums?
I work hard at never being sure of anything.
wintler2 wrote:justdrew wrote:it's certainly easy to take the bullet points in the OP wrong and feel (unintentionally) insulted.
So we shouldn't talk about it because somebody might take offence? i don't agree, particularly when taking offence is so often just a rationalisation for aggression (e.g. "YOU looking at ME, FAG?!?!?"). And i think its worth noting that the only posters on this thread hyperventilating and directing abuse are those trying to shut it down.
I suspect you're proceeding from a perspective that says all communication is manipulation. everything an effort to force some outcome. maybe... whereas, I think it's fine to just say things, and every comment should not have to be worried over about what intention anyone else may imagine behind it. less-polite communications are just that, less polite. but politeness is not a perfect goal, especially when honest frank dialog is wanted. i do think it would be wrong to expect, especially in a forum like this, that every word be carefully planned.
anyway, I'm just making an observation, do with it as you please, I'm certainly not saying I think that you shouldn't talk about anything you want to