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brekin wrote:a "white pedophile" is maybe because everyone knows Walt Disney is white
Simulist wrote:brekin wrote:I'm not going to the wall over this...
Really?
brekin wrote:I'm sure priests go batty when they see Pedophile Priest together in the same sentence and worry the association will stick in people's minds but only the ignorant are going to assume you can't have one without the other.
Crow wrote:Language matters.
I had a dream last night in which I was asked to post into this thread that everyone here at RI (self included) is/are actually quite batshit insane.
Possible stuff to consider;
Influence of the transgressive impulse on the formation of art. (Code is everywhere)
Pedophilia as validation that the subject is 'in control'.
Why do we find so many of our cultural giants to have such abusive personal lives?
Sounder wrote:Why do we find so many of our cultural giants to have such abusive personal lives?
Really, Brekin, I would have had more respect for you if you had just come out and unabashedly owned up to thinking that gay pedophiles are worse than "straight" ones (whatever a "straight" pedophile is). The failure to take any responsibility at all - and then trying to project it back on me as if after being an out gay man for 25+ years I would somehow be conflating gay and pedophile and not reacting to a known cultural phenomenon that has an effect on my personal life - is really kind of just nauseating. I mean, for you. I don't really give a fuck at the end of the day. FFS, it's just an internet forum.
It's just like when someone says, "Yo, this black dude just robbed me!," when they would never say, "This white dude just robbed me!"- they would just say, "This dude robbed me." This is inherently racist. Furthermore, this plays into the popular societal notion that black people are robbers, which is extremely fucked up. We have to be aware of the cultural linguistic landscape, and take care in what "memes" we put out there, beyond just being technically correct about something. We live in a society in which a presidential candidate (Rick Santorum) just compared gay sex to bestiality, and continues to be in the race. I'd say there's still some bigotry out there- please consider how what you say will be received.
Mention of Walt Disney's alleged pedophiliac sexual preference should be (parenthetical), in order to not play into anto-gay bigotry.
wordspeak2 wrote:p.s. What the hell is "Idiocracy", btw?
bks wrote:Four pages of metacommentary may have been saved had brekin [or WRex] simply put the phrase "gay pedophile" in quotation marks. Or, maybe not.
When people write stupid, hostile or otherwise noteworthy phrases that we want to call attention to, putting quotes around it makes the point. If brekin didn't think it was a stupid or homophobic claim, serendipitously it turns out that he still could have put quotes around it as a way to simply denote that this is someone else's exact construction. But that would still have required him understanding the phrase's construction was noteworthy.
If [as may sadly be the case if the evidence in this thread can be trusted] brekin did not understand that that particular phrasing was noteworthy, well, that's why we have the really smart mods we do, to fix stuff in the least invasive way possible consistent with keeping this space a hospitable one. [If this isn't the ethos of RI moderation, maybe Jeff could articulate it more clearly, or point to where it has been articulated more clearly?]
So can I ask you, Wombaticus, did you consider placing quotation marks around "gay pedophile" before deleting "gay"? Curious to know. And to others: would you have objected to quotes being placed around the offending phrase in the title?
Yes. That is horrible and unfortunate that you had that experience (especially with a relative.)
Here's the thing: I can see two admirable responses in light of the mistake. Either say "Gosh I'm sorry, I hadn't stopped to think about how the phrase gay pedophile reinforces certain stereotypes and therefore hurts a whole class of people, that was really careless of me" or else just own up to it and say "yeah, I do actually think it's worse to molest little boys than little girls, and I suspect that homosexuals are more likely to be pedophiles." What is especially lame and cowardly is to say "I was just being extra precise in my language and by the way if you are reading into my words than it must be your problem, not mine". I reiterate that what I find particularly offensive is Brekin's attempt to transfer responsibility to me, when in fact I am a member of the aggrieved group in this case. That is an extremely low move.
Anyway, I'm out of this thread now. I will carry with it only my rock bottom opinion of Brekin, but also some comfort that the rest of the RI community is actually very sensitive to the issues gay people face with the use of language to reinforce our second-class status. As for Disney, who gives a fuck, the guy's dead; this is a problem only if they succeed in reanimating his frozen head.
What is especially lame and cowardly is to say "I was just being extra precise in my language and by the way if you are reading into my words than it must be your problem, not mine".
Brekin,
I hope you know im not being hostile here but its important i say I think you are wrong.
I also think the below quote was a little insensitive.
brekin Quote:
Yes. That is horrible and unfortunate that you had that experience (especially with a relative.)
I cant imagine what it must feel like to have that sort of accusation thrown at me casually by a stranger.
This thread contains first hand confirmation from someone about how these seemingly small associations can have a powerful influence over peoples thinking and society in general. Its a much more important subject than I feel you give it credit for.
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