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A sexual surrogate, sometimes called a surrogate partner, is a member of a sex therapy team consisting of client(s), supervising therapist, and surrogate.[1][2][3] Some couples attend sexual surrogacy sessions together, while some people (either single or in a couple) attend them alone.[4] The surrogate engages in education and often intimate physical contact and/or sexual activity with clients to achieve a therapeutic goal.[5] Masters and Johnson introduced the practice in their textbook on Human Sexual Inadequacy, published in 1970.[6]
Most surrogates are women;[7] a few are men.[8] Some surrogates work at counseling centers, while others have their own offices.[9] Many surrogates have training as sexologists.[10]
Although anyone can call themselves a surrogate without training or certification, there is training and certification available.[11][12] The International Professional Surrogates Association, founded in 1971, trains and certifies sexual surrogates and refers clients and therapists to them, as well as participating in academic research and public education.[13][14] Vena Blanchard is its president.[15]
norton ash » Tue Jan 12, 2016 6:33 pm wrote:I have a friend who's a sex worker. She's completely independent, very careful and intuitive, has a background in psychology and social work. Her sex work enables her career as an artist and writer. I know it's a bad gig for many, but it's a good one for her.
No, that's not what anti-prostitutionists mean. They want sex work abolished world-wide. Conflating sex work with trafficking is the method they are using. This fails to serve trafficking victims and further stigmatises sex workers.
If women find themselves in a situation where their options are limited, what woman (or person) has the right to then turn around and deny another woman a livelihood? Only privileged women are able to issue these decrees from on high. But please don't pretend it's about "gender equality". If that were true, those women who built this horrid, violent model would have been out in the streets handing out cash from their own wallets. That's what "gender equality" would look like. Women empowering other women to fight gender inequality. Not punishing them for being poor.
.Sex work has not been abolished in Iceland. It has simply gone underground. We have a members from Iceland in the global network (NSWP). What you are happy about, is that you don't see it anymore. Not that it is forcing male, female and transgender sex worker to work in a more dangerous setting - with greater vulnerability to HIV, STDs and violence
Slutwalk has nothing to do with sex workers. It was a spontaneous movement that arose because a high ranking police officer in Canada said that women should dress more appropriately if they didn't want to be raped. I know of no sex workers who take part in that event.
Heaven Swan » Tue Jan 12, 2016 11:59 pm wrote:Parel wrote:
I'd love to see an end to prostitution worldwide. And I'd love to see women (and men) in dignified well-paid work. I'd also love to see an end to male-supremacist sexuality, I advocate working towards a world where sex is an expression of love and mutuality, not domination and submission, with the dominant sex paying.
It's not true that only privileged women oppose legalization of prostitution and support the Nordic approach. Many of those who have suffered abuse in and out of the sex trade are viscerally opposed to prostitution and pornography. I myself was trafficked and the friend (won't call her my partner since I don't know where this is going) that I mentioned in another thread was born in a country with very high levels of trafficking and was adopted by couple who planned to traffic her. She successfully blocked their plan, in part by emphasizing male traits and is now F to M transgender.
There's an awful lot of trafficking going on and I'm not at all convinced that, just because in some cases the only way a woman can make enough to not be super-exploited or spend time with their kids is to sell their body that that should be supported as a political goal.
And sister, with all due respect, I'm not convinced that there is a huge difference between you who volunteered as a teen and someone like me or many others who, as children or teens were sold and/or coerced..Sex work has not been abolished in Iceland. It has simply gone underground. We have a members from Iceland in the global network (NSWP). What you are happy about, is that you don't see it anymore. Not that it is forcing male, female and transgender sex worker to work in a more dangerous setting - with greater vulnerability to HIV, STDs and violence
No, I can't claim to know everything about everything that goes on in Iceland from my time spent there. When I was researching the Scandinavian situation on the internet I did find quite a bit of writing by Swedish sex-workers who were complaining about how their business had been practically wiped out.
What really appealed to me in Iceland wasn't just how safe-feeling and non-sexualized the streets were, but the way women and men interacted. The respect and higher equality level was tangible.Slutwalk has nothing to do with sex workers. It was a spontaneous movement that arose because a high ranking police officer in Canada said that women should dress more appropriately if they didn't want to be raped. I know of no sex workers who take part in that event.
I was briefly involved with Slutwalk. In the US they have made a strong alliance with sex-workers rights groups. Men also participate and lead meetings which I read had opened the door to infiltration by the sex industry. Slutwalk seems to be fizzling. Good riddance!
You are not addressing the capitalist dictates I have pointed out in relation to placing sex workers into sweat shops. Are you suggesting that sex work is not dignified? If so, we have reached an impasse. It's not about your morality or mine. It's about people having sovereignty over their own bodies.
You want a world where sex is connected to love. Well, I don't. I want to be free to have casual sex if I want to. And I do. The mandatory "love" connection thing is part a patriarchal ownership ritual. That's what marriage is all about. And I reject that as well. In the end, it's about people disapproving of women having multiple partners.
The older I get, the more I approve of the idea. It's a service, a form of therapy, not unlike physical therapy only far more intimate. While I haven't engaged in it yet, I can easily understand how it could be greatly beneficial.
82_28 » Sat Jan 16, 2016 8:13 am wrote: I associate it with veganism actually. I wish I could be a vegan but I like meat. When there is a vegan or vegetarian option I always roll with that.
Heaven Swan » Sat Jan 16, 2016 6:41 am wrote:Parel wrote:You are not addressing the capitalist dictates I have pointed out in relation to placing sex workers into sweat shops. Are you suggesting that sex work is not dignified? If so, we have reached an impasse. It's not about your morality or mine. It's about people having sovereignty over their own bodies.
You want a world where sex is connected to love. Well, I don't. I want to be free to have casual sex if I want to. And I do. The mandatory "love" connection thing is part a patriarchal ownership ritual. That's what marriage is all about. And I reject that as well. In the end, it's about people disapproving of women having multiple partners.
If 'sex work' i.e. selling access to ones' internal organs for money is so dignified, would you want your daughter to do it? Seriously. Please think before you answer and answer truthfully. Or perhaps you have a daughter as well as a son. Did you steer her into this great line of work?
Nordic wrote:The older I get, the more I approve of the idea. It's a service, a form of therapy, not unlike physical therapy only far more intimate. While I haven't engaged in it yet, I can easily understand how it could be greatly beneficial.
Same question for you Nordic. Since you approve of the idea of women selling their bodies, does that approval extend to your daughter? Or is it only for the sub class of women that are either trafficked or end up in it because of lack of better opportunities?
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