Personally, I think it goes to the Heart of how 82_28 expresses himself. Where he is coming from. And which invites the response form myself of "Yes, I DO know and value that..".
You land with me as being very dismissive of any value of 'social lubrication' aka being pleasent when people have differing opinions than yourself. Do you train your kids in this behaviour?
Carol Newquist » Wed Oct 16, 2013 11:31 am wrote:If belonging to a group or having friends requires someone to compromise on their objectivity and integrity, well, you figure it out. There's too much of that going on....everywhere.
Figure out what in particular? That group behaviour can be different from individual behaviour?
Carol Newquist » Wed Oct 16, 2013 11:31 am wrote:Another poster above feels compelled to label me as a troll in order to distance themselves from my dissent because they don't want to be in disfavor with the Group.
This is Mind Reading.
The poster may be labelling you as a troll for a variety of reasons, none of which may involve your 'dissent'. You are coming across to me as assuming because you have an explanation that satisfies you, that you expect other people to agree that is objective reality.
"I think it, therefore it must be that way" Good Luck with that.
You yourself did make the comment that people often described you as an asshole.
This really is nothing more than over-associational paranoid nonsense.
What is this capitalised 'Group' of which you speak?.
To me it shows your lack of knowledge of, and respect for RI culture. It also serves the purpose of letting you take yourself 'off the hook' for behaving like, well, an asshole. If you are going to be flying a flag for ethical humane treatment of people, seriously, start with yourself, because, frankly, who wants to hang-out with an asshole, when there are lots of non-assholes around?
Carol Newquist » Wed Oct 16, 2013 11:31 am wrote:This is the kind of garbage my children are dealing with in Middle and High School right now, and it's interesting, to say the least, to see it happening here...but not surprising. These behaviors, learned in those years of schooling, carry forward into adult life....but are transparently disguised by the acrylic adult masks so expertly fashioned in the spirit of Jesse crafting his masterpiece of a box in the last episode of
Breaking Bad.
You do not illustrate what you are talking about, leaving it at the level of a knowing critical parent remonstrating with naughty children and giving interesting asides off-camera ('... but not surprising.) - an act which places you in a self-appointed parental role.
Far from being children with masks, this is an adult board, filled with divergent, smart people full of differing worldviews and experiences - and I assert it's members deserve better than you acting like an asshole (I prefer the term 'wanker' actually), especially when you yourself have not managed to work out how to use the Quote function, resulting in posts where it is unclear what is being said to whom.