I think it would be good for to calm down a little, take a few breaths and step back.
I mean, is it possible to make enough space to stop now and start a new chapter?
Maybe it's naive of me to think this - I'm thinking forum/family/healing.
Can you let it go?
Re: A Toast to Banned and Disappeared Posters
Posted: Tue Jun 15, 2010 7:16 pm
by Cordelia
Let him go Nordic. You've contributed too much to let this bury you. Ignore those with whom you can't reach or reason, or reasonably argue with. Because they're not worth the energy and it's just too damn draining........
Oops, and Cordelia. (your post came in as I was writing this one).
It's easy for people to think I'm far more angry than I am. I mean, I'm angry on the level of a guy who's typing on an internet forum. But the "all of me" isn't, it's not like I'm sitting here blowing a gasket. Hard to explain.
I use words, sometimes as weapons, sometimes as dirtclods, sometimes as, well, other things. If I stressed out or offended anyone who was not the target, I apologize.
Re: A Toast to Banned and Disappeared Posters
Posted: Tue Jun 15, 2010 7:26 pm
by Peregrine
Nordic wrote: I use words, sometimes as weapons, sometimes as dirtclods, sometimes as, well, other things. If I stressed out or offended anyone who was not the target, I apologize.
This is why you remind me of my bro. Nicest guy in the world, totally laid back but every once in a while he gets indignant & hurls verbal dirtclods. But underneath, he's a total sweetie...
Re: A Toast to Banned and Disappeared Posters
Posted: Wed Jun 16, 2010 8:06 am
by Searcher08
I wanted to bring something up just to clear it and move on... something which feels a little hard to discuss.
Can I ask what led to the decision for Percival to be banned? I think that Jeff was seeing clearly something which was invisible to me about Percival's motives and long term behaviour and Jeff was really 'walking the talk' of having Intuition but being Rigorous about it.
I had offered to try to do conflict resolution (NVC) and Percival had accepted, but there seems to have been a much more conscious, divisive game in play. It left a bad taste of manipulation.
May I ask for people's advice on this?
How can one (I) develop better 'antenna', so not to close off from others whose viewpoints are very different from ones own, but still detect BS better?
Re: A Toast to Banned and Disappeared Posters
Posted: Wed Jun 16, 2010 10:49 am
by Jeff
Searcher08 wrote:I wanted to bring something up just to clear it and move on... something which feels a little hard to discuss.
Can I ask what led to the decision for Percival to be banned? I think that Jeff was seeing clearly something which was invisible to me about Percival's motives and long term behaviour and Jeff was really 'walking the talk' of having Intuition but being Rigorous about it.
You're right, there was more to Percival's banning than would have been apparent from reading the board. But I'm sorry, I don't think I should say more than that.
Re: A Toast to Banned and Disappeared Posters
Posted: Wed Jun 16, 2010 6:08 pm
by Nordic
Peregrine wrote:
Nordic wrote: I use words, sometimes as weapons, sometimes as dirtclods, sometimes as, well, other things. If I stressed out or offended anyone who was not the target, I apologize.
This is why you remind me of my bro. Nicest guy in the world, totally laid back but every once in a while he gets indignant & hurls verbal dirtclods. But underneath, he's a total sweetie...
Well, that sounds familiar. Glad you can relate.
Nobody likes it when I get mad in real life either. But does that mean I should never get mad? Hey, in a perfect world I wouldn't, right? MY perfect world anyway.
Re: A Toast to Banned and Disappeared Posters
Posted: Thu Jun 17, 2010 10:09 pm
by §ê¢rꆧ
I miss Username. I don't understand what happened there at all.
If someone has her email, please PM me. I'd like to get to the bottom of that. Her "Curse on your houses" post seemed very unlike her to me, and I'd like to understand what the hell really happened.
No matter where I go, I always end up befriending those who get banned. It's almost worst than getting banned yourself, in that there isn't even any kind of emotional satisfaction or closure.
Anyway, yeah. Things got really volatile here for awhile.