Welcome to... The Saloon

[Allegro]

Did you just say your clit was lit?
And, on Thursday you’re partying
to show your pink lit clit ?

Okay, I did just hear that.
I guess I’ll have to see it from a distance, as usual .

Happy Thursday Party!

[Allegro]

I've been saving it.

[Hammer of Los]

...

More tea, vicar?

I'll put the kettle on.

It's thirsty Work.

Is it me, or is it gettin' hot in here?

I bet there's still plenty more bad preachers for the devil to stoke.

I need a fag.

I shouldn't say that.

I'm hetero.

...

[Hammer of Los]

...

I see Chatter has three pigeons for company this morning.

One flew off when I stared right at her though.

The others stayed.

It's nice for him to have some company.

I don't see Chitter so much nowadays.


ps Chitter and Chatter are my magpie friends. Although these days Chitter seem not so familiar, and is seen rarely. I think they had a falling out. It's a great shame.

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[Project Willow]

Allegro, you are welcome to see my clit if you ever find yourself in the area.

Also, a cool libation for the Kat, on the house, with nip garnish.





Hammer, feel free to smoke in here.

[Project Willow]

There were a number of no-shows for my party, some of whom may actually read this!

It went fairly well however, and the neon was a hit. A few people openly appreciated my artwork, which they really shouldn't do as it only encourages me, and makes me temporarily blank out all recent show and grant rejections. I had the opportunity to educate again about female anatomy and genital cosmetic surgery, which is always good. I had the opportunity again yesterday when I participated in an artist talk.

I addressed a group of liberal to progressive women, some of them activists, all of them feminists. I spoke about my very first group show in 1986 at the National Women Studies Association Conference, Joanna Russ's piece I posted in GD, porn, sexuality, the clitoris, and clit show. I ended up going last and many of the former speakers had referenced their personal experiences of sexual violence, poverty, and abortion. I said at one point, "I'm never sure whether I should tell my own story." They immediately encouraged me. So I started, I talked about trafficking, the programs, fascists and slavery..., and I also started shaking. They were mostly Obama folks, you know, but I tried to explain briefly that power is wielded less by politicians these days than by other forces and actors. I said this was no theory, it was based on my personal experience. I can't remember how I summed it up, it was very brief, but as I transitioned to another topic, the shaking lessened.

Two friends embraced me and were supportive, another two women thanked me for my courage and apologized for my continuing struggles. I could tell however, the majority could not have taken it in. I got the distinct feeling they didn't believe me. The organizer of the event went on in praise of Obama as if nothing had happened.

It was so hard! I don't know how often I want to do that anymore, at least not for a very long time.

[compared2what?]

It was brave of you to do, though. It's really not a minor accomplishment, you know. I mean, it wouldn't be for anybody. So I think it would be very unjust if you gave yourself less credit for it just because you also have higher, more serious and more challenging aims than most. Sort of like grading on the curve in reverse.

Seriously. That's the kind of thing I do. I advise against it.



Cheers.

[Project Willow]

[Project Willow]

Happy day off to whomever has a day off today in the US. May all those who are without homes or families be warm, well fed, and among friends.

[Project Willow]

Kristina Hagman, my thoughts are with you.

[Project Willow]

A toast to Luposapien and the beginning of a new chapter of life!

[Luposapien]

Thanks PW. New horizons, and all that. Onward and upward, right? Guess we'll see. In the meantime, I'll have me a gin martini, dirty (or two... or three...).




(For anyone scratching their heads, reference here.)

[Project Willow]

Oh, I like mine dirty too! It's almost a decade since my great break-up, and indeed it was a long and slow mourning. Friends, new interests, and rebound lovers do wonders!

Hugs to you.

[LilyPatToo]

What PW said. You made me remember my own big breakup (a relationship, not a marriage) and all I can add is to be kind to yourself. Figure out what makes you feel better and set aside time for it. Write "It is what it is" on a piece of paper and look at it at least once per hour for the first couple of months. Had I done more of that, instead of blaming myself and railing against unfair Fate, I think I would have staggered out on the other side years sooner and in much better shape emotionally. I wish you luck

And I'll just have a furtive but refreshing gin and tonic, since the sun's nowhere near over the yardarm here...

LilyPat

[Luposapien]

Thanks for the kind words and advice, LilyPat. "It is what it is" happens to be one of my personal mantras already, which I've been employing rather a lot as of late. Not sure if it's working just yet, but I'll keep trying. It's the being kind to myself part that I have the most trouble with, and that's at the best of times, but I'm trying my best to keep the self-flagellation to a minimum. I understand it's actually a sign of an overly inflated ego, but what the hell does "I" know.

But, yeah, PW. Dirty all the way! With extra olives. Are you a vodka or gin woman? I'll won't turn down either, but vodka can be too smooth. When I'm going for the martini, it's usually because I'm craving that astringent kick in the mouth.