Agent Orange Cooper » Sat Nov 21, 2015 7:19 pm wrote:Exiles in their own flesh: A psychotherapist speaks
A guest post submitted (anonymously) by a practicing psychotherapist to the site 4th Wave Now (2015)
Read the full post here.
This link is very cogent, and worth quoting in case it got overlooked in the frenzy of rapid-fire posting.
When I am suddenly and without warning discouraged from exploring the underlying causes and conditions of certain of my patients’ distress (as I was trained to do), and instead forced to put my professional stamp of approval upon a prefab, one-size-fits-all narrative intended to explain the complexity of my patient’s troubles, I feel confused. It’s as if I am being held hostage. No longer encouraged or permitted to question, consider or discuss the full spectrum of my patient’s mental health concerns, it has occurred to me that I am being used, my meager professional authority commandeered to legitimize a new narrative I may or may not wish to corroborate.
It’s been perilous to simply admit to not fully understanding it all–let alone disagree with the trans narrative. There was no training or teaching. I was just suddenly told that some of my patients thought they were trapped in the wrong body and that was that.
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There are so many complex forces, from many different realms, coming into play with this trans wave. Most people are completely unaware of these intersecting interests.
Unfortunately the culture war has done a number on the concept of critical thinking. I have considered myself liberal my entire adult life, and I still am. But for a long time I couldn’t find anyone questioning this trans explosion who wasn’t on the far right. It made me feel like only conservatives were allowed to think, to consider this issue, but ultimately their thoughts were rendered meaningless due to their branding by the culture war. It’s essential that left-leaning people model critical thinking for the masses in this regard.
It’s important to link people like us together, who have been silenced, so we can resume contact with our critical thinking skills and reduce our growing sense of self doubt. Divide and conquer is best accomplished through silencing, through calling into question those who speak out. There is so much of this attached to the trans movement. Even just wondering about a profound concept such as transgender is labeled transphobic. What I think has happened is that people are now phobic about their own gut responses to life. We are being systematically separated from our own intuition. This is fatal for a civilization, I think. Not that our intuition always tells the truth with a capital T, but it is a critical piece of who we are. Without it, we remain profoundly directionless, and more susceptible to coercion of all types.
What frightens me most about the trans movement is that the establishment has gotten involved and is leading it. I think that’s really weird. Clearly they are benefiting from it financially. So sad. It disturbs me to see how giddy my former medical director is to be part of this growing craze. We used to treat kids with mental health problems, but now it’s all about validating their emergent and shifting identities. As professionals, if we don’t loudly prioritize their identities as being the most important thing about them (and identities do shift constantly in kids and teens), we risk coming across as unsupportive and even immoral. Identity development has always been a teen task, but in the past it wasn’t necessarily supposed to become a lifestyle, or colonize the entirety of your existence.
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What saddens me the most is the way children are being trained to think their parents do not love them if mom and dad don’t jump aboard the trans train. To me, this is a brutal aspect of a near-dictatorship being foisted on everyone.
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One common trait I’ve noticed in nearly all the trans kids I’ve met has been their profound sense of being different, and too alone. They often have had little success with making friends, or what I would call contact with “the other.” Because of their psychic isolation, they are prime targets for group think narratives. But in addition to looking for a way to belong, they are also craving protection and the stamp of legitimacy, perhaps because they feel a profound lack of it.
Now that the government and medical communities are involved in the creation of who trans folks are, this class of individuals have finally found their safe havens. Now, rather than being merely invisible and awkward, they have been transformed into veritable leaders of a revolution. Now, rather than cower in the shadows, they have commandeered the narratives of others into a similar dark and brooding place where they once were. The tables, as they lived and viewed them, have now turned.
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A large part of the problem comes with the revolution in health care. More and more, we are giving people the power to define their own treatments. This is good in many ways, but the trans movement is using this moment, and is actively recruiting young, psychologically undefined and frightened people to push their agenda through the medical community. It’s clearly not that difficult to do. These kids are just pawns. That’s how it looks to me anyway. The trans community needs more converts so that the narrative becomes more cohesive. I’m guessing the push for this comes from a need to further cohere so they will have more members to fully cement a fragile, constructed reality.
From the comments section, this therapist's response to a question from a transitioning-gender person, as to how she would approach someone wishing to make the change:
This development of the self would be a process whereby a client is assisted in the difficult task of creating a kind of consolidated sense of who they are. Personally, I think these core parts of us should function, or ideally function best when they are functionally somewhat autonomous, yet healthfully interdependent with others. I guess what I’m saying is, if a person doesn’t really yet know who they are independently, if they have a sort of “empty center looking to be filled from without”, I would work with them until they were able to find some weight within their own psychic core before they engaged in any sort of drastic changes. Signs that this consolidation is happening would be the individual not requiring others to excessively validate who they are. Ideally the individual should not be excessively too dependent upon the thoughts and opinions of others to maintain their sense of self.
As I have worked exclusively with teens, I cannot speak to the adult experience of gender transition. Teens by their nature are seeking identity. They don’t tend to have strong core selves just yet, and those with mental health issues are often extremely deficient in having fulfilled this developmental task. Neuroscience now shows us that chronic Instability of affect and mood inhibits the development of the self, or the capacity to observe the self. Unstable folks are neurologically incapable of observing others outside of how these others can fulfill their immediate needs (think narcissism, which is basically a sign a person is too dependent upon external others to construct the self. In being overly dependent in this way, the empty person uses others to create an image of themselves, they use others to literally ” feel” who they are. Obviously, this is all unconscious. Most people with a lack of a cohesive self are not aware they are using others in this way, but they will feel the effects of this habit and often not understand why they continue to have poor interpersonal and disrupted relationships with others).
So, for me, to get back to your question, I would work to look at whether or not a person has accomplished basic psychological developmental tasks before I would encourage their transitioning. However, this is all a bit of a mute point, for my exploring such with people who come to me saying they seek to transition will now classify me as transphobic and out of compliance if I explain what I’ve here explained to you. The fact is, not one of the kids I met with who wanted to transition was manifesting psychological health. They were very hurt individuals and had attributed their very real pain to the theory that their bodies and gender brains were misaligned. The vast majority of them had severe deficits interpersonally, experienced profound social anxiety, suicidality, to name just a few of the issues I saw emerging. These were souls fearing psychic extinction, living with the terror of being too different, too alone. They nearly all found their new identities, along with a whole new slew of friends, in others who experienced similar or equal psychic terror. How could I take seriously their sudden belief that they were trapped in the wrong body? How could I not see that they had stumbled upon a very viable and critical path to locating themselves amongst similar others.
Of course, I could not say this to any of them as they would claim, as they had been schooled online, that I too didn’t understand and was transphobic.
http://4thwavenow.com/2015/08/22/exiles ... mment-3690
brainpanhandler wrote: I haven't personally read anything in this thread that seems particularly offensive. Controversial? yes. Offensive? No. There are a few posters coming from a pretty reactionary position which they cloak in cryptic, weasely words. But they're entitled to their opinions.
I have not seen any reactionary positions at this thread, weaselily disguised or otherwise, besides from those supposedly defending the trans-rights, which makes me suppose that I am considered by BPH as one of the reactionary weasels (perhaps for using the word "strangely" instead of "ironically"). It depresses me a bit to have to lay out my credentials as a non-hater, but on the other hand, misunderstanding proliferates through too much pride, so I'll offer this brief anecdote, from 2008, in the period that coincided with meeting my wife.
I was for a time in contact with a transgender person who called herself the Dream Queen (she did online dream interpretations). She was a very intelligent, insightful person and our correspondence was very rich. I found her charming and likable (she was still biologically male but I didn’t find it difficult to think of him/her as a female at that time), even to a degree attractive. She described her self-transformation in a similar way to Genesis P. Porrige, i.e., in alchemical terms, a sort of coniunctio oppositorum by which s/he desired to enact the alchemical marriage through surgery. My feeling, then and now, was that s/he was over-literalizing a subtler psychological journey; but if I said as much, I was delicate about it and no conflict arose between us.
At a certain point s/he began to suggest that I was like hir, and that I too would someday go through the same process, undergo surgical intervention in order to realize my true alchemical/hermaphrodite nature. I began to feel mild panic: what if s/he was right? I knew deep down that it was not for me, and yet still, my identity at that time (I was forty) was sufficiently wobbly for me to have vague feelings of doubt. By that age, I’d come to accept that life is so unbelievably strange, so full of unexpected curves, that nothing could be ruled out completely. The Dream Queen was so convinced of it, I felt briefly afraid that this might really be my future!
I assured her she was mistaken and gave my reasons. It didn’t create a rift between us (though we did lose touch over time), but I suppose it did make clear that there was already a gulf between us: I was not willing to make the leap which she saw as our shared destiny, and, by the same token, I was not able to fully endorse her own choice (at least not if endorsement depended on imitation).
Hopefully, this illustrates that, if anything, I’m flexible and open to a fault, when it comes strange anomalies and my own affinity with them. And that my “problem” with this transgender person only began when s/he tried to impose hir worldview onto me, and to recruit me into the trans-agenda. And even then it was not actually a problem (unless it was for hir), simply a clear boundary. The same applies at this thread.
I seriously doubt that the most strident defenders of transrights at this thread have ever got as close to contemplating their own transgender potential as some of us who are rigorously questioning the narrative. Seriously.
slomo » Mon Nov 23, 2015 1:50 pm wrote:Aside from intersex individuals (who have a more fundamental anatomical problem arising during embryonic development), to the extent that there is any physiologic basis to transgenderism, it is a problem in the (possibly embryonic) development of the CNS, not the neuroendocrine system.
CNS = central nervous system? What would be a likely cause of this hypothetical problem (i.e, a reason for the rapidly growing numbers of TG-aspirants)?