Canadian_watcher being harrased by PM's

[Peregrine]

She just posted in the lounge about being followed from thread to thread & having harrasing PM's. I have to run out & run a few errands & drop my little one of at her pops, but will be back in about an hour & a half to check in & see what has happened. That is so not acceptable & whoever is doing that needs a reprieve.

[Peregrine]

the culprit is WakeUpandLive. I've informed her to forward the pm's to Jeff.

[barracuda]

What the fuck. Have you pm'ed WakeUp yet, and requested he desist?

[barracuda]

I see now you've confronted him in the Mister Hava thread. Not much of a response, though.

[Peregrine]

WUaL words to me verbatim from the hava thread via PM:
"I don't want to say the wrong thing...so I'll just say I didn't appreciate the manner in which you went about bringing this to my attention."

[barracuda]

Did you point him to the lounge? I want him there to face his accuser.

[Peregrine]

He's now acusing me of "outing him" as the one who made all the PM's. Jesus christ on a pogo stick.... Yes I pointed him to the lounge.

[Peregrine]

I've got a merry royal headache & a huge workload today. I am going to have a cat nap & be back later. Sorry fellas... I'm pooped this afternoon.

[barracuda]

Just received from WUaL:

Hi CW,

I'd like to apologize about our encounters in the misogyny thread. I hope we can move past any differences and work towards providing good content for this board on all subjects.

I understand if you decide not to un-ignore me.

Chris

The post above was sent on thursday, reaching out to her. The second exchange starts at the bottom of this, with her PM to me.

WakeUpAndLive

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages
To each their own.

I'm not sure why, but your first sentence made me think of this:
http://www.pbfcomics.com/archive_b/PBF0 ... r_Luck.gif

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 12:04 pm
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Canadian_watcher

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Inbox
Nope, you lose.

I've dealt with your type before.

I'm reporting this.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:59 am
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WakeUpAndLive

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages
No, no games here, but you blocked me on the board and it is my only avenue of conversation.

I am young and stupid, but I'm here to learn and hopefully become young and wise (and stay young and wise lol). Even if you feel you have not impacted my opinion you have, for what I feel is the better.

In all honesty, apologies.

Cheers,

Chris

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:53 am
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Canadian_watcher

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Inbox
I see your game - you think you're up to some innovative mind-game? You aren't.

I am affirming my right to my private space by telling you not to PM me. I am affirming my right to have the last word on the matter.

I believe you know that you are deliberately pushing boundaries and you think that you are being sneaky and building a defense by PMing me with a fauxpology. You are either young or stupid. Sophisticated people - the moderators, say - will see through it when it is brought to their attention which it will be if you are stubborn enough to PM me for any reason ever again.

Allow me to clarify: do not respond to this.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:42 am
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WakeUpAndLive

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages
Apologies. have a good one.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:35 am
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Canadian_watcher

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
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I do not believe you have any remorse or consideration for me, or for hava who you are using a a pawn which is absolutely unfair to her. I am asking you for her sake more than mine to shut the hell up in that thread.
do NOT PM me again.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:33 am
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WakeUpAndLive

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
Folder: Sent messages
I'm saying that it is a step forward. I felt I had one as well last night. I changed the post in hava's thread, because I went back and realized i was not specifically targeting YOU, but us, everyone, who needs to accept that sometimes we just won't understand another persons viewpoint.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:05 am
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Canadian_watcher

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
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do not PM me again.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:02 am
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WakeUpAndLive

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava
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I did read the next sentence. It confirms my sentiment.

Sent: Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:00 am
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Canadian_watcher

Message subject: Re: Mister Hava

Folder: Inbox
hey - back off.
did you read the VERY NEXT SENTENCE in my post where I said I accept it?
did you?
CAN you even read?????



Subject: Mister Hava



WakeUpAndLive wrote:

Canadian_watcher wrote:
hava, I know that this is directed at what you took from what I wrote on the circumcision thread. I just went back for the 4th time to see what I did that might have in ANY way been construed as racial hatred or as being unfair to you personally. I am sorry to say that I still do not see it.

Just as with the misogyny thread, it is in the eye of the beholder. It is not for you to understand why, just accept it.

[Peregrine]

Fuck. My brain hurts... Ok, I got the same PM from him. Told him I had a royal headache & would get back to him later. Couldn't close the laptop, had to read his PM exchange, so here's my take:

No matter how well intentioned, he's totally disrespectful of her wishes on not PM'in her & from what I can gather with that last message to her & the link (which seems to not work but is most likely a goofy comic picture, judging by the address) he's treating it like a joke. I don't want to ban they guy, but give him a stiff warning if he doesn't knock it off. I've not seen the updated threads for the last 10 minutes (god knows there's a shitload of posts now!) but that stalker thread should be locked & soon... Not before one of us (cuda, you choose your words rather wisely in heated situations) informs the rest of the board that the matter has been dealt with.

thoughts?

[barracuda]

I suspended him pending Jeff's decision.

[Peregrine]

Ok mister fish, nicely done. Rest eludes me. I'm soakin' in the tub. Brain tired...

[barracuda]

I'm tending towards a permanent ban on Wake. Seriously.

[Jeff]

New member "WakeUpsTwin" registered tonight. Don't think I'll activate that one. I also favour leaving sleeping WakeUps asleep. Harassment should have a lower bar for permanent bans.

[Peregrine]

Was discussing online harassment with a friend of mine yesterday & I was thinking about WUaL's behavior in regards to the PM exchange. I personally feel it was a "fauxpology", myself. If this kind of thing happened in the flesh, he would have had the cops called on him. That's nuts.

WakeUpsTwin? nah, couldn't be. You're just being paranoid. Now if you will excuse me, I am nursing a mild hangover & am remembering that ...*sigh*... I did the drunken karaoke thing at my neighbors houseparty last night...