I work hard at never being sure of anything.wintler2 wrote:Are you sure you're not letting yourself be intimidated by tantrums?justdrew wrote:.. setting up a counter current, rather than head on confrontation with something that may or may not even be, is probably, in my estimation, a better course of action.
I suspect you're proceeding from a perspective that says all communication is manipulation. everything an effort to force some outcome. maybe... whereas, I think it's fine to just say things, and every comment should not have to be worried over about what intention anyone else may imagine behind it. less-polite communications are just that, less polite. but politeness is not a perfect goal, especially when honest frank dialog is wanted. i do think it would be wrong to expect, especially in a forum like this, that every word be carefully planned.wintler2 wrote:So we shouldn't talk about it because somebody might take offence? i don't agree, particularly when taking offence is so often just a rationalisation for aggression (e.g. "YOU looking at ME, FAG?!?!?"). And i think its worth noting that the only posters on this thread hyperventilating and directing abuse are those trying to shut it down.justdrew wrote:it's certainly easy to take the bullet points in the OP wrong and feel (unintentionally) insulted.
anyway, I'm just making an observation, do with it as you please, I'm certainly not saying I think that you shouldn't talk about anything you want to