Project Willow wrote:
My local paper has just published a review of Nathan's book. I was revisiting this thread so that I could begin to draft my letter to the editor.
When I started the clitoris project, I hooked up with a feminist activist group, The New View Campaign, in order to inquire about recent research and related issues such as labiaplasty. Leonore Tiefer was my contact. She voiced support for my project.
The sexologist Susie Bright also supported the project, in more than words, yet she is a friend and supporter of Nathan's. I hadn't written of that odd connection before, but was planning to.
What is this bizarre overlap between feminist sexology and false memory advocacy? What is driving these women? I'm going to cut my connection with the feminist group.
Are there any sex-positive, anti-pedophilia feminists? Helloooooo? Anybody out there?
Meanwhile, in Seattle, the most prominent and active opponent of child trafficking is a (rather frightening) right-wing Christian.
I'm sure you will make the right decision regarding affiliation with the feminist group you mentioned, PW, but I would humbly suggest considering the fact (if you haven't already, of course) that your affiliation with them may be one of the best opportunities some of those women will get to hear and have to contend with, in the flesh, a powerful and articulate oppositional viewpoint to their own (and from someone with whom they share many of the same views, and who is unquestionably also feminist, as you are).
Allowing one group of feminists to lay claim to the term "sex-positive feminist" already skews the discussion IMO, since it risks identifying the default position of the "typical" (and not just the radical) feminist as sex-negative. This is of course absurd, an it also contributes to the perverse effect by which many young women seek to distance themselves from anything "feminist" when, on the strength of its actual political stances, those same young women might otherwise be
attracted to feminism.
Also, there seems to be a good deal of post-feminist, sex-positive nonsense that isn't really about proclaiming a woman's right to have sexuality and be sexual, but championing her right to be made into, or make herself into, a sex
object. I'm not saying the line is always clear or easy to draw, but it can't be questioned that the dominant cultural framing of women as essentially objects for male consumption has infiltrated (some would even say "colonized") post-feminist conceptions of female sexuality.
Finally, if it is as large a trend as it seems, the slippage from being against "anti-pornography" to being against "anti-pedophilia" is a disturbing one in feminist thought.
Some interesting comments on the whole "sex positive" debate at the link below (there are hundreds of them, and I haven't gotten all the way through). A few particularly good ones follows:
http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2011/10/22/the-pervocracy-nails-it-on-misguided-critiques-of-sex-positive-feminism/
saurus 10.22.2011 at 9:17 pm | Permalink
Well, I respectfully disagree with sex-positive feminism, albeit not for the same reasons.
- usually means sex act-positive not sexuality-positive; i.e., often keys having sex as positive, but whether sex is a good thing or a bad thing can really vary from person to person; for some people having sex is not positive nor “healthy”
- sometimes ignorant of how sex positivity not only fails to be immune to rape culture, but can also propagate it’s own unique little rape culture
- often stigmatizes and/or pathologizes people who are asexual, celibate, not that enthusiastic about sex, “modest” etc as prudes, “missing out”, “broken”, internalizing sexism, etc
- I find some sex-positive feminists cannot go through five seconds without talking about sex acts, and then looking at people challengingly like “I dare you to blush!”
- often there’s an emphasis on sex as “fun” and “play” which can make people feel shitty if their experience is not light or does not involve laughing or whatever
- for all the “hurray boundaries”, in some sex-positive communities there’s a subtle pressure to push your boundaries because doing more somehow makes you cooler / more liberal
- for being apparently “sex positive” I have had some truly awful experiences with sex positive feminists who violated my privacy, “pitied” me for not wanting to participate in certain acts, were irresponsible when it came to the emotional side of sex, etc
This is not to say that all sex-positive feminists are like this (duh) or that all of these traits are unique to sex-positive feminists and don’t appear in the general population (duh), but rather that there are certain critiques one can make of sex-positive feminism and how it plays out that aren’t sexist.
That said, the unfair and unquestionably sexist critique mentioned in the OP doesn’t strike me entirely as being about sex-positive feminism so much as a critique of femme, which I think is part of a larger problem in which unless you’re doing exactly the opposite of whatever the mainstream dominant sociocultural thing is, you’re colluding or whatever. We need to liberate ourselves from acting according to Their terms.
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EG 10.22.2011 at 11:17 pm | Permalink
That’s actually one of my other problems with it. By naming themselves “sex-positive” feminists, its proponents cannot help implying that the default feminism is sex-negative, and I have two problems with that. 1) It’s buying into a deeply anti-feminist trope about feminism and ignoring a lot of feminist history, and 2) it feels like a shaming technique, akin to the one used by people calling themselves “pro-life.” We’re supposed to be all “oh, sex-positive, of course I want to be that, I wouldn’t want to be lumped in with those jerks who think sex is a bad thing.” Well, fuck that noise. In a great deal of my experience, especially my early experiences, sex has been a bad thing, and it too often feels to me that sex-positive feminism/feminists don’t want to hear about/deal with that.
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Claire K. 10.23.2011 at 2:46 am | Permalink
When I first heard the term “sex-positive” I thought it had to apply to me –after all, I’m a lesbian and naturally oppose the “sex-is-sinful” dogma. But I can’t help but feel that radical feminist spaces are much more accepting of my sexuality than are sex-positive spaces. Part of the problem is that sex-positive feminists always seem to be reacting to radical feminists, and radical feminists are usually reacting to normative forms of heterosexuality. As a result, sex-positive writings usually say more about how normative forms of heterosexuality can be empowering than about how damaging it is when that sexuality is forced on people or how empowering non-normative sexualities can be.